Holidays are often major memories for children, but it can be harder for them to truly enjoy those special days if their parents are divorced. They may worry about being able to spend time with both parents and how that time will go.
Parents should ensure that they’re planning ahead for the holiday season so there’s not as much last-minute stress to deal with. This starts with reviewing the parenting schedule to ensure both parents can spend time with the children and enjoy making those holiday memories.
1. Be willing to adjust the schedule
Holiday events, including visits from out-of-town relatives, aren’t always on the set schedule for parenting time. It’s usually best if both parents are willing to adjust their parenting time so the children can participate in the holiday activities they’ll appreciate. This doesn’t mean that either parent should always be the one who has to deal with the other parent adjusting the time. Instead, this should be a joint process that allows both parents to receive adjustments as needed.
2. Consider new traditions
Some of the traditions that you and the children looked forward to when you were still with your ex might not be possible now. Instead of dwelling on those, take the time to think about what new traditions you and your children can enjoy. Let them play a role in setting up these traditions so they’re meaningful to them, too.
Holiday guidelines, including the parenting schedule, should be included in the parenting plan. Working with someone familiar with these situations may be beneficial so you can get it all sorted out as quickly as possible.