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Is your ex-spouse attempting to alienate your children?

On Behalf of | Apr 14, 2024 | Child Custody

As parents, we understand that childhood is fleeting. Therefore, spending as much time as possible with our children is important, even if we’re no longer with the other parent.

But what if your ex-spouse is actively trying to turn your children against you?

Recognizing the signs of parental alienation

Parental alienation occurs when one parent attempts to harm the relationship between the children and the other parent. There are several tactics they may use, such as:

  • Making negative comments about the other parent in front of the children
  • Limiting communication or visitation between the children and the other parent
  • Creating false allegations or accusations to tarnish the other parent’s reputation
  • Encouraging the children to reject or fear the other parent without valid reasons

These actions can harm the children’s well-being, emotional development and relationship with the targeted parent. In recent years, psychologists have come to recognize parental alienation as a form of emotional abuse.

There are signs that your ex-spouse may be attempting to turn your children against you, including:

  • Your children expressing unfounded hostility or fear towards you
  • They are repeating negative statements or false accusations about you that align with your ex-spouse’s narrative
  • Your children are refusing to visit with you

Identifying these signs is crucial to addressing parental alienation. Here are some strategies to help rebuild and strengthen your relationship with your children:

1. Keep the lines of communication open 

2. Emphasize your love for them and desire to spend time with them

3. Keep detailed records of specific behaviors, conversations and interactions that may indicate your ex-spouse is trying to alienate your children

4. Focus on quality time with your children by participating in activities they enjoy and creating positive memories

If parental alienation is impacting your relationship with your children, it’s crucial that you explore legal options to address the issue. It may necessitate modifying custody arrangements for the best interests of your children.